Posted: 11/12/2013 12:00:00 PM by Guest blogger, Beck Meade
Filed under: Career-resources, Diversity, Job-seekers, AWRA
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I'm in a reflective mood as I sit here drinking my hot coffee and watching my 18-month-old son Jack feed himself his Weetabix and banana breakfast. I let my mind drift back to two years ago; when I was three months pregnant and my partner was on a FIFO roster for three months. We were in a situation when we were planning our family and my partner had taken the offer to work under the FIFO program.In those three months, my world turned 180 degrees around. We were a young fun-loving couple who would go out on a whim; wake-up on Saturday afternoons nursing sore heads only to be at it again a few hours later. Never did we knock back a social invite.
Our life changed from being active socialites to complete non-existence. The invitations soon dried up from well-meaning friends who didn’t want to flaunt their non-pregnant state or their happy coupledom in my face. I went from living to barely existing; going to work at 8 in the morning and returning home by 6. Ordering pizza or something equally calorific which I took to bed with me; watching TV late into the night and living some zombie's existence in the day had become my usual routine.
Thankfully, this depressive routine came to an end, the day Jack joined us.
I was smitten (I still am). Bitten by the mother bug, and oh boy was I in love! This little creature changed my life in ways I could not imagine. Matt, my partner, had two weeks off work and we spent it wrapped in a cocoon of learning, loving, and just letting things be.
Jack and I fell into our own routine. I treated us as a separate entity in the world; we lived how we wanted to, hour to hour, nap to nap. I gave us time to get to know each other, and when Matt came home, we had our time together to make our filial bond stronger. I don’t think without the dedicated time we got together as a FIFO family, we could have had these liberties.
Fast forward to July this year….Jack and I needed more interaction, we wanted to reach out to other people and I needed to learn from other moms who were in similar situations as me.
From starting a meet-up group to reaching out to other FIFO families in my area, I created a non-profit support group called ‘FIFO connections’ about four months ago. We provide social support on multiple levels for FIFO spouses. We run a private Facebook group where we engage, support, nurture and learn from other FIFO wives; women from other parts of Australia are members too. [could very well extend to FIFO wives; women living in the Philippines in the not too distant future. What says ya, kababayans back home?] By organising get-togethers in my local area, I get face-to-face engagement with people whom I now call my friends and we have regular catch-ups outside of our FIFO connections.
In two years, in my own mind, I have gone from (in Katy Perry's words) "zero to hero". I’m thankful for this FIFO life that has empowered me as a woman, mother, and now as a business leader.
I climbed out of the proverbial hole of non-existence and now I am ready to pass-on the skills I have learnt to others who are fulfilling their role as FIFO wives/partners. I strongly believe that we are the foundation of this industry, and we all know, that behind every good man is a GREAT woman.***********************************
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